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The Will To Change by bell hooks fucked me up good
The (vulgar) slang “niquer” in french in other context relates to something hurtful, violent or brutal : “Je me suis NIQUÉ la main” = “I HURT my hand”. Also used as “I’m gonna BEAT the shit out you” (“Je vais te NIQUER ta race”).
Same with : “Se faire baiser”* = “To get fucked” the exact same also means “To be WRONGED”.
* NOTE : it’s rarely or never commonly used for men because it is PASSIVE (meaning a man cannot be/get fucked by a woman).
For the most part, the words related to violence/brutality can be replaced for “having sex” in some way. I’m guessing it’s the same for a lot of languages ?
In Swedish young men often use the same word for when they’re going to hurt someone, and for having sex with (well …) a woman. “Jag ska knulla dig”, roughly translated to “I will fuck you”, where the word “knulla” means hurt/beat up/destroy, and “att knulla” = “to fuck” as in “to have sex with” (always as in “doing something to someone”). Absolutely the same.
Same thing goes for German. I think the most commonly used term to describe having sex with a woman is “ficken” = to fuck, which men also oftentimes use when they’re threatening violence on one another. “Ich fick dich” = I’ll fuck you, which would mean something along the lines of, I’ll beat the shit out of you…
pls. if someone is confiding in you that they’re depressed and going through a mental health decline…please, for the love of god, do not bring up physical health and bring up some bullshit about how it’s connected to their feelings, especially if they’re feeling suicidal. people fit and unfit alike can still have depression.
i remember arguing with this ugly white guy online a couple of years ago and he was trying to insult black people and their noses and was like, “that’s why you all have noses in the middle of your faces!!!” as an insult and i was so confused like…noses in the middle of our fac–? we all have noses in the middle of our faces, wtf’s he talking about? and he proceeded to say, “your nose bridge is supposed to start at your forehead” and i was just thinking about how high nose bridges are literally mainly associated with yts? like PLEASE most of the world has black and brown people meaning low noses are more prominent but they STILL think their nose is the norm? they just be talking sometimes sjfndjds
As a Scottish person living in England I feel this on a personal level, when people say shit like “well it’s not the genuine asylum seekers I’m bothered by, it’s the people who just move here to get a better job and take advantage of our welfare system” and I’m like “Mate, I literally moved 500 miles south to a different country just to get a better job and better weather, if you’re going to hate on anyone for that hate on me.”
Then they try to back-track and say things like “Well you already speak perfect English so it’s fine” and I’m like “My grandma didn’t speak very good English when my grandparents settled in the UK from Finland, what are you trying to say?”
And they’re like “Well I’m sure you’re grandparents had useful jobs and weren’t just sponging off the system.” like… nah, my grandma mended clothes and my grandad sold garden sheds, they weren’t exactly brain surgeons
“But they…” just admit it, it’s not white immigrants that bother you, I doubt Americans go on marches protesting the Canadian undergrad students who overstay their visas or all the germans and scandinavians who just rocked up in the Midwest one day and decided to call it their own.
This was how I finally started to understand white privilege.
Use the Walgreens Brand which is pretty cheap and it does wonders and doesn’t leave me with a white cast. And I’m dark as hell so I hate looking ashy but not all sunscreens are made equally and it’s one of the better ones I’ve used.
Wait cocoa/shea butter and coconut oil don’t protect you from the sun we really do need sunscreen??
Yea fam. All that “we don’t need sunscreen” shit is a myth. Combine that with the fact that most dermatologists don’t know how to spot skin cancer in Black people and it’s a nasty combination.
Yeah, it’s harder for us to get it but when we do it’s deadly. I know two people who died of skin cancer, both were Black.
“While incidence of melanoma is higher in the Caucasian population, a July 2016 study in the Journal of the American Academy of Dermatology showed it is more deadly in people of color. African American patients were most likely to be diagnosed with melanoma in its later stages than any other group in the study, and they also had the worst prognosis and the lowest overall survival rate.”
Sorry about the link, I’m on mobile. But this is from August 2016, which I know isn’t the most recent but it’s still SUPER IMPORTANT. Y’all please wear sunscreen. With Google it’s even easy to find smaller, Black-owned brands.
I use this sunscreen from Walmart. It’s cheap, doesn’t leave a white cast, and smells pretty good.
Duuuude my family uses that and it’s Soo nice it even smells good
Same for brown people, are skin may be dark but we do burn!
Korean and Japanese sunscreens are also a great option for deeper skin tones! Their formulas are way more sophisticated that most US sunscreens, don’t feel greasy, and most don’t leave a white cast. Biore Aqua watery essence and Purito Centella green level sunscreen are especially nice and not crazy expensive
these posts are so annoying because they’re always worded as if actresses have some sort of privilege over actors and like anyone actually cares about their wellbeing. also ive seen approximately zero posts like this just about actresses and several about actors lol and actresses have to extreme diet at all times and often exercise just as hard. actors do not face even a fraction of the same pressure
I always think about this comparison of Hugh Jackman on two magazine covers indicating what men see as attractive vs. what women see as attractive:
I’m not saying women are never shallow but we aren’t the ones demanding male actors live on chicken breast and spinach for months on end so they can be suitably muscular and veiny!! Meanwhile, whenever a female celebrity gains like 10 lbs, even if she was very thin to begin with, she’s immediately going to be universally yelled at for “letting herself go” and magazines and talking heads will speculate that she’s pregnant or depressed or whatever else they can use to slander her.
The point is, this whole trend of “men suffer under the patriarchy too!!!!” annoys me a lot because it always puts the onus on women to like, support men emotionally without remotely asking the same of men. You know who enforces the patriarchy? Other men!!! So they should take responsibility and stop blaming women for existing.
the whole “dad bod” phenomenon speaks for itself i think. there isn’t really an equivalent for women being appreciated because they look normal.
